Life is Good but Hard

Lately the Army Boy and I have been having serious money issues, the kind of issues that have eviction notices attached to them. These issues did not come about because we have not been paying out bills, but because the employment ran out and we had to file another claim, which of course takes time and them we could not claim the first check until the 14th when our rent is due on the 7th at the very latest. So, these last seven days have been incredibly stressful, add to that the fact that we were almost out of food and where we live he makes too much money claiming unemployment to qualify for food stamps. It has been a rough seven days for us. I have been praying non stop because honestly the way it works is  that the first check is only for one week instead of two. So we were looking at $360 and it would not cover the rent. We applied for one time help from the Housing Authority here, but have not heard anything. That would be a one time check of $250, so with the partial unemployment, it would have caught us up with the rent.

Glory to God, today we got the unemployment money and it was for two weeks! So, we paid the rent outright and are totally caught up with some money left over. He called the Unemployment office to be sure that it was not a mistake and honestly I was kind of freaking out praying that it was NOT a mistake. Apparently it was not. So since we had to borrow some money from his parents for food, we will be okay. Thank God!

Life is good again and I am happy again and no stress. We are back on track. Army Boy goes to pick his classes on Monday and starts school the 21st. Wal-Mart is talking to him about a job, so hopefully it will all work out and we will be squared away! Well, I gotta run make a small grocery list. Ciao!

Life and Another Year

Today is my Army Boy’s birthday. He is 35 today. I am so grateful that I am lucky enough to be able to spend it with him and spend my life with him. We have been talking about getting married and honestly I am thrilled about that. He is so very special and wonderful to me and for me.

So, today handsome, I hope that you have a good day and that your future is so bright and full of love. We have had our problems in the past and we got through them because we cared and loved each other enough to work through the problems to get to the good times again.

My life has been so wonderful since we met and even more so since we have started living together. So, happy birthday my love and I hope we get to spend many many more together.

I love you so very much.

Is it Karma?

So, I just found out that my ex in Michigan is about to be evicted. I am not sure exactly how I feel about this piece of information. I do know that I am worried for the cat we had however. She is very sweet and does not deserve this. I wish that I was closer because I would go and grab her for sure!

While my relationship with him is more of ambivalent than anything else. I do kind of feel badly for him. Our relationship had run it’s course quickly but neither of us wanting to admit it I think. I am happy to be where I am now and with who I am. I was trying to be a good person and left the electric on when I left because I knew he could not get it in his name. Now, I am wondering if I did the right thing by doing that. I know the last bill was $169.00 and I am wondering if I will be stuck with that when I was trying to be nice. Sigh.

I guess that time will tell with that. I should not have done it, I know.. But I was trying to be amicable with our split because it was ugly enough with the fact that I had to call the cops before I left because he was being a jerk. I was not trying to be a bitch or anything, but he was being a jerk and his behavior was out of control.

Well, I need to run! Ciao!

Life Happens

If you are a friend of mine on FB, on my personal page that is, not the game page, yesterday you saw that I posted that I was pissed off. I am still mad, but not as much now. I wish I could share the story with you, but I had best not until we see how it shakes out. It has to do with Army Boy and his unit and some things that happened at AT. Let me be clear, or as clear as I can be without telling the whole story. Army Boy did NOTHING wrong. I am not mad at HIM at all.

Okay, so that is all I can say about that right now. Life is good still. Just really tired lately. Thinking that I might be pregnant again. I have to make an appointment at the doctor, I called and they can’t see me until next week, which is fine because Army Boy has an medical appointment at the VA tomorrow.

First of all, I lost the baby that I was speaking about in the entry here. I know that a lot of you may not have known that and I did not share publicly for sure about that. I am okay. It was disappointing and I was sad, but I know it was not in the Plan for that moment. So, we moved on, and now here we are again. We are both are cautiously happy.

I have been playing WoW a lot with Army Boy and it has been fun. This last weekend ( the one that just past) was a Drill weekend for him, so he had a couple of early mornings. Apparently there was supposed to be a Family Day, but they decided to change the date and did not bother to tell anyone. I actually did not go because I was not feeling well, but it would have been annoying to have gone and oh yeah, we changed the date.

Communication is not one of the strong suits apparently. I am trying to stay healthy because I usually get sick in the summer time. It is a battle for me right now. I am taking my vitamins and all that. I even got some Ensure to drink on those days that I don’t eat so healthy. We need to go shopping this week.

Well, I am going to run.. I am so tired! Ciao!

My Foray into Technology

I believe that I am reasonably smart when it comes to technology and using my lap top. This is a story about how one woman wants to get rid of AOL off her computer, but it just won’t go away.

The other day, it was decided that I needed to clean up my lap top some. I play WoW (World of Warcraft) a lot and I have begun to have some issues with how quickly my computer works and freezing, especially in battles. So, I started with taking all the non essential things off my lap top and I put AOL into that category because, I can check AOL mail on my browser with no issues. Only, it did not leave my computer a couple of days ago. So now I am trying to get it off my computer. I hate letting it scan for other versions because it takes forever and there should be no other versions because I had just downloaded it, never updated it.

So, as I write this, it is scanning for other versions that should not exist but probably do, they are sneaky like that. on the box that pops up it says, this should only take a moment, but it takes a lot longer than that! Oh, it finally finished and low and behold, there was another version on here. Go figure. I always say that you need to be smarter than the thing you are trying to operate and that is true, which is clearly not the case here. Some how another version got put on my hard drive that I am at this moment eradicating off my hard drive. Again they say this will take a few moments, why can’t they be honest and say, this will take freaking forever or until you get annoyed and say to hell with it and leave it on your lap top. I am determined to get it off this time, though, so I will wait through their computer generated eternity just to get it gone!

I also have Windows8 on a non touch screen computer. Can we say HATE it?! I don’t have another OS to put on here or I would so fast it would make your head spin! I took off all but the most essential apps, that I need or use. Which honestly are not many. I have several cookbook apps, which I kept. So, I am hoping that I can say goodbye to AOL now. Not really holding my breath, but you never know! Ciao!

Advice to Others

Seems like there are tons of articles and books on how to make a relationship last. It seems to me that it would be pretty easy to know what you need to do, if not this post is for you! These are what I have found in my relationships from my past and current one. So here we go, my 9 tips for a lasting relationship.

1. Respect: This is first and foremost with any relationship, if the respect is not there, that relationship will not last.
2. Similar Values: While you can make relationships work with different value sets, I have found that to not be true with me. So, for example if you are a church going person, you need to be sure your SO (significant other) is one too. I am not saying that it will absolutely not work, because in my experience it has not, but I do know people who make it work.
3. Laugh Together: The more good times and funny things that you have in your relationship, the bad times when they happen will be easier to get through and it will also help you realize that the relationship is worth fighting for. For example: This is a conversation that happened between my Army Boy and I yesterday…

Playing WoW (World of Warcraft) Me: Can you take my Druid up to the Scarlet Monastery for the dungeon up there please?

Army Boy: Sure how far can she fly up there?

Me: Um, Ironforge ( which is not very far at all)

Army Boy: It’s going to be a loooooong run…..

Me: I know, I am sorry, she ( my druid) has not been here at all before.

Army Boy: Later in the run up… Okay, you can kill this guy…

Me: Um, no,it’s your job to be my taxi and the one that kills everything..

Army Boy: What are you going to do then?

Me: sit here and look pretty…

He cracked up and of course that made me laugh like crazy too…

4. Do Little Things for Each Other: When I was working at Kroger, my Army Boy had a nice hot bath running for me when I got home and would make dinner for me. When he got home from AT (Annual Training) for the National Guard, I had a welcome home dinner for him.. to show him  how much I missed him while he was gone!

5. Love Each Other: I know it sounds easy to do, but honestly loving someone when you are pissed off at them or annoyed with them is very hard! For example, when I have annoyed Army Boy, he will still rub my feet or back if I ask and sometimes if I don’t ask.

6. Talk/Listen to Each Other: This is truly the key to having a lasting relationship and perhaps the hardest part for people to do. Opening up yourself to another person is very hard, at least it was for me. I had to seek counseling about it because I was not able to do so. Listening to your SO is another key, no matter what they are saying is not easy as well. I always try to live by ‘ Say what you mean and mean what you say’. Be clear about what you are trying to say to your SO, they are not mind readers, if you want them to realize something, you need to state it plainly.

7. Fight Fair: This kind of goes with #6, if you do end up fighting about something that was said, do not pull out every single mean and nasty thing you can possibly say about your SO because honestly that will not get the issue solved and it will make it worse. I was in a relationship like that and it was so hard on me because I knew if we fought it would be brutal and I would shut down totally and not want to talk to the person. Say what you need to say, but find a non combative way to say it.

8. Apologize: If you said something that hurt your SO or you were wrong, 2 words can go a long way to making things right again. I’m sorry. Not the most easily said 2 words, but it helps soothe the hurts. However, do not over use because after a while it does not mean much to the other person. Also, no one likes to be wrong, and if you are apologize before it creates resentment in the relationship. I have been there and it sucks. The other person I am speaking of, never apologized ….EVER. It got to the point that I was resentful and lost respect for them.

9. A Little Understanding Goes a Long Way: Being understanding when your SO is having a bad day goes a very long way to keeping a relationship together. When I am not feeling well or I am cranky, Army Boy does what he can to help me through that time. I snap and bite his head off, but he realizes that I will be better soon and he loves me through it. It is not easy by any means…

So those are my tips for a lasting relationship… Have anything to add or disagree with it? Leave it in the comments..

Happy, Happy, HAPPY!!!!

One of my favorite comedians is Jeff Dunham, who actually is a ventriloquist. He has a puppet named Peanut and when I read the title to this entry I hear Peanut’s voice. It makes me smile. Yes, there is a difference between happy and HAPPY, at least there is in my mind anyway. Happy is when you are looking forward to the new day to se what like has in store for you, good or bad. HAPPY is when you have everything you need and realize for the very first time, that this is what life is supposed to be like. I am both happy and HAPPY today. I never in my wildest dreams ever thought I would be both at the very same time. I was honestly aiming for happy and slid head long into HAPPY, which honestly, is just fine by me.

It took so long to find happy that I honestly did not expect to find HAPPY along the way. Happy was going to be a-okay with me. Life had other plans for me and I am so glad that it did! I love my life these days, of course, I gave up a lot to be both happy and HAPPY, but honestly I don’t miss a single thing. These days, I am laughing and smiling and finding inner peace I never knew I had. All because I made one change, okay really two and yes, they were kind of big, but I did not mind one bit.

The first change was that I got rid of people in my life who did not lift me up. It was hard, because I had been with some of these people for a long time. But it was time to move forward and I did. Yeah, it was scary leaving behind the known and setting sail for the unknown, but kind of thrilling too. I also moved to a place that made me happy. That was the BIG one. I left a place I had come to love for an unknown, untested place. It worked out splendidly actually and I am happy here and I totally love my new state.

I have a man who loves me, cherishes me, takes care of me, who will make a fool of himself to see me smile and laugh. Yeah, HAPPY is a great place to live these days. I am glad I took that scary leap and changed my life for the better. MUCH BETTER.